Marriage is not a union between two people, it’s a union of two families. It doesn’t matter which culture or religion you belong to, marriage is an important event in every religion and culture. Even this Covid-19 pandemic can’t stop people from marrying. So Yes marriage is a really big deal in everyone’s life.
Thus, decisions related to marriage should be made carefully. A rushed marriage can ruin this beautiful experience and can make a person’s beautiful and happy life into a living hell. Especially for women, marriage is not a few-day event. After marriage not only her name, her address, her family members changes. Everything will change from her name to her future. So if you marry your daughter at a young age then it may destroy her entire future.
So what is the right to marry your daughter?
According to law, it’s legal to marry your daughter after she turns 18. But do you think 18 is the right age to marry your daughter?
An 18-year-old girl, will either 12th pass-out or a fresher in college, so did you think a school pass-out and college fresher is mature enough to handle such an extreme change in her life? No. 18 is a young age to marry your daughter even the government is thinking to push this limit to 21 years.
The marriage of a daughter is equally important for parents, thus parents sometimes rush their daughter’s marriage. Decisions made in hurry are the ones we regret the most. Thus never rush your daughter’s marriage. It’s her life that will change completely after the marriage so ask her opinion too, understand her too.
Other than age. there something that you need to remember When it comes to marrying your daughter:
1. Always make sure your daughter is educated before marriage. Make sure she has completed her education. It doesn’t matter whether her future in-laws are agreed to take responsibility for education or not, being her parents it’s your responsibility to make her ready for all the future challenges.
More importantly, not all promises are fulfilled. I am not trying to be a negative person here but who knows whether they will allow her to study or not. The world is a harsh place here are the wildest dreams come true so it’s better to be prepared for the worst.
2. Make your daughter financially independent. I know the world thinks that money is not the most important thing in the World. But money gives you the power to stand for yourself, for your future. Nothing is as much as powerful as money so to faces the challenges in the future money will be required.
3. Never let your daughter resign from her job just because she is getting married. Many women resign from their jobs because they are getting married.
We all know how difficult it is to find a job now so never let her resign from the job. Never let marriage affect your daughter’s career. Instead of resigning, advise her to find a job in the area of her “soon-to-be house” and even if she doesn’t find a job the right way, it’s okay she can find it after marriage too. There is no problem in living apart for a few days after the marriage.
4. Make her emotional and mentally strong. Nothing is more important than emotional support. Always stand with your daughter. Your emotional support will give her the courage to fight against the world.
5. Don’t marry your daughter just because society is pressurizing you. She is your daughter, a person, not a burden that you have to throw because someone has told you to do so. It’s tough for her too.
Every time she attends a family function some random aunty comes and tells her “Arre tum toh bahut badi ho gai ho, ab toh Shaadi ki Umar ho gai hai”. If she can handle such aunties in every family function then why can’t you handle a little pressure from society for her?
Before marrying your daughter make sure you have fulfilled these duties.
Yes, there is no correct age to marry your daughter but there always a correct time, and that correct time will be when your daughter will become financially independent and mature enough to handle her duties.
