India is a country which is rich in its culture, where everyone is family, where women are considered as a goddess, but a goddess with restrictions and who decides these restrictions SOCIETY. Society, it’s a small word that has impacted the lives of every woman, whether it be a working woman or a housewife, it is the society that decides:
- Whether a woman should be working or not.
- What should be the age of a woman to get married (remember she should not be older).
- When should she have children (yes children, because even if the mother wants only one child or no child for the time being, it is neither enough nor appropriate for the SOCIETY).
- Whether a woman should wear a sleeveless dress or a knee-length dress or not, because what we wear defines our character says the SOCIETY ( Read more: https://democraticnaari.com/2021/06/23/what-we-wear-does-not-define-our-character/ )
And so many more, this never ends.
We talk about free will, democracy, but who decides the limit, THE SOCIETY, we talk about not caring about others opinions, wearing what we want, doing what we want, Then why do we delete a post in which we are wearing a bikini or a sleeveless top or kissing someone or even hugging your best friend, WHY? Because society tells us to do so because society says oh! you are looking fat or this picture is vulgar or WHAT IF your family sees it?
WHAT IF?
This what-if is meant to be with our society, what if you guys break up, what if someone slut-shame you if you wear this, so many WHAT IFs, Some for their so-called concerns and some for their so-called “opinions”. Remember, opinions are not meant to approve, they are meant to hear it, respect it and then agree/disagree. Own your opinions, you are not meant to agree to something you don’t stand for just because the “society” says so.
And so, my question to you is:
HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT THAT AFTER ALL THIS, WHEN DID YOU ACTUALLY ALLOW THE SOCIETY TO DECIDE FOR YOU?
When did you tell society to allow you to get married or to allow you to work after marriage, or to allow you to travel or even allow you to wear a short dress? You know we say we make our own decisions but we are actually allowing the society to make those and we are just following them, and you know who the society is, it’s the lady living nearby, it’s your relatives, it’s your friends and for others it’s you. In an attempt to be carefree, to be fearless, to be a strong woman you have hide your vulnerability of doubts, the doubts of safety, the doubt of your appearance, the doubt of yourself.
Have you ever thought?
You always say to your friends you want to achieve something, whether it be establishing a start-up or getting a cool job or studying something unique or vlogging on YouTube or even becoming an influencer, So many things to achieve, but you don’t, because of the society, because they tell you so, because of the belief that you can’t do it, they’ll say you can’t pull it off and you will not my dear because you have allowed them to be your decision maker.
Yes, you don’t want to, but you do, because you don’t believe in yourself, you don’t have confidence in yourself and you don’t believe in yourself because you are scared, scared to be trolled, scared to see failure, scared to lose people, scared to feel danger, scared to be fearless, scared to be a free ambitious woman. After all, if something goes wrong you won’t have society to blame, you will have yourself. And this guilt is what allowing society.
We all admire Beyoncee, Rihana, Priyanka Chopra, Prajakta Kohli and so many women, we all want to be free as they are, independent as they but what we don’t want is to take risk as they did. You know, even Rakhi Sawant doesn’t care about people because if she starts worrying about the society she won’t make money to survive, this is what confidence is, this is what fearless is, no matter how much you get trolled, how much you get dominated, You are a woman, you are flawless, you just have to the face the world, and when you do, you’ll look through everything. Yes you will get trolled, yes your complexion & body type will make people call you by names, yes people will mock your walk and of course they will try to make you feel inferior, but they will also get intimidated by you, they will also feel shameful, they won’t be able to look in your eye if you tell yourself that, “I will not allow them to choose what is right for me, I will not allow them to dominate me”
